Man...that was the toughest weekend ever. The in-laws were here since Friday and just left this am. The last time they visited did not go well....(summer of 2010). The jist of that last horrific visit was: that I neglected my kids, took advantage of my husband, he did everything and I did nothing, I didn't appreciate what I had (keep in mind that I bring in as much to this household as dh does....)I was a bully, and my dh was told by his father to 'put me in my place'. All this was said at the end of a week long visit where I worked over 50 hrs orientating to the NNICU (a little stressful???) and dh was on vacation all week. So, what they saw was dh with the kids and making supper, etc.....because I was working!!
I was not impressed, to say the least...
So this was their first visit back since then. Thankfully they made it short. It went ok, but the thing that bothers me the most is that dh has never talked to his parents about that summer...and they all act as if nothing ever happened. I found it really difficult (and still find it difficult) to put those hurtful words aside. I guess dh can do it a little easier because he's been used to doing it all his life. (which is sad in itself). I would have liked to hear at least an acknowledgement from them that they know it hurt me.....but NOPE nothing! It makes me a little angry as well....but I kept it in for the sake of the kids. They know nothing of what had happened and I want to leave it that way. It angers me, because, once again, they were very hurtful, and got away with it AGAIN. (It's been an ongoing sage in their family, esp with dh's father where he does not care who he hurts he's going to say what he wants to say, and they noone calls him on it so he continues to do it.)
So, I was cordial, and respectful, but as each minute passed his father annoyed me more and more! I'm so glad they are gone now, because I could not handle another day! lol
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent! Now I can breathe a sigh of relief!