A big sigh of relief!!

[momcoish]

Man...that was the toughest weekend ever. The in-laws were here since Friday and just left this am. The last time they visited did not go well....(summer of 2010). The jist of that last horrific visit was: that I neglected my kids, took advantage of my husband, he did everything and I did nothing, I didn't appreciate what I had (keep in mind that I bring in as much to this household as dh does....)I was a bully, and my dh was told by his father to 'put me in my place'. All this was said at the end of a week long visit where I worked over 50 hrs orientating to the NNICU (a little stressful???) and dh was on vacation all week. So, what they saw was dh with the kids and making supper, etc.....because I was working!!

I was not impressed, to say the least...

So this was their first visit back since then. Thankfully they made it short. It went ok, but the thing that bothers me the most is that dh has never talked to his parents about that summer...and they all act as if nothing ever happened. I found it really difficult (and still find it difficult) to put those hurtful words aside. I guess dh can do it a little easier because he's been used to doing it all his life. (which is sad in itself). I would have liked to hear at least an acknowledgement from them that they know it hurt me.....but NOPE nothing! It makes me a little angry as well....but I kept it in for the sake of the kids. They know nothing of what had happened and I want to leave it that way. It angers me, because, once again, they were very hurtful, and got away with it AGAIN. (It's been an ongoing sage in their family, esp with dh's father where he does not care who he hurts he's going to say what he wants to say, and they noone calls him on it so he continues to do it.)

So, I was cordial, and respectful, but as each minute passed his father annoyed me more and more! I'm so glad they are gone now, because I could not handle another day! lol

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent! Now I can breathe a sigh of relief!

[AnnaB]

Ouch Susan... that sounds pretty awful...! And sad... You are really strong, who managed to "play along" for the kids. I really understand that sigh of relief! *hugs*

[DeniseM]

Susan, that sounds horrific. so sorry you had to put up with that. yikes. glad they are gone.

[Olivia]

Oh Susan! That sounds terrible. It is such a shame that we can't pick our in-laws when we pick our husbands. I agree with Anna that you must be a very strong woman to tolerate and play along. I am proud of you. I pray future visits will be easier!

I will say that my father-in-law has some rather obnoxious qualities. It doesn't take him long to kinda make me crazy. Nothing awful or mean, just weird and annoying. My mother in law was very sweet, but we were two completely different people. Then I have a brother-in-law who is straight up WEIRD. Never married, 40 years old, hermit, lazy, and cheap. He also has some very odd opinion about things... I have no idea how my husband turned out as normal as he did!! But I thankful he is relatively normal and even more thankful f-i-l and b-i-l live 2+ hours away.

[mlepitts]

susan, i'm so sorry that relations are strained. it constantly amazes me that we are kind to perfect strangers, but feel so comfortable putting our loved ones down. hugs for being the bigger person and not perpetuating the issue!

[momcoish]

Wow! Thanks so much ladies! You all have such kind things to say to uplift my spirit! I love this place!!

[happydays525]

Susan, so glad to hear that things are back to normal at home again! Yuck! That would be so difficult to get through...you are tough and admirable for not letting it get to you so much that the kiddos are affected too.

[kissy]

Susan I am so sorry they were hurtful to you! How horrible to be working so hard and be stressed at work and then to have to hear that! Ouch!

I am sure it was hard to keep your tongue in check but your children will grow up and see it all for themselves and they will see how their mother has always handled it with such grace and class!

Glad they kept this visit short though

[sillypea]

((hugs))