QOTD 10/24/2011

[DeniseM]

Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?

Five years ago I was so worried about selling my house, moving and starting over some where else. I was worried about how we were going to make a living since it seemed that the construction business was taking a hit. Boy did it get even worse. and worse.

Well it all happened despite my worries. And we survived. None of it really matters anymore anyway. I really try to remember that now. This too shall pass......a phrase that rattles in my head quite a bit. what about you?

[Funky Fairy]

Interesting one Denise.
5 years ago I was praying my divorce would go smoothly.
It seemed to be taking forever to go through and the solicitors seemed to be delaying matters.
Ade and I were starting to worry as we had the wedding booked in Florida for March and yet I still didn't have my divorce.

And it all happened and we got married

[ellen s]

For sure. 5 years ago I was in a job that made me cry myself to sleep every night
and not want to get out of bed in the morning...how it took a toll on my marriage and life.

In ways it doesn't matter b/c it was just a job, ya know? But in other ways it makes me appreciate how much I love my job now and I am thankful for that every day.

[StephanieEloise]

Denise, it's so true. 5 years ago, I was in my first job out of college, and I worked for this horrendous woman who insisted on standing over my shoulder and telling me what to design, move by move. But I stuck with it, gained some fantastic experience, and now I'm in a much better, more creative job.

I know it's hard not to worry, but all it does is raise our blood pressure and give us wrinkles!

[DeniseM]

Thanks for answering this one ladies. love hearing your stories. very inspiring.

[ellen s]

Anyone in a good place 5 years ago? LOL!

[Sharmaine]

how funny! 5 years ago we had moved house too and for 2 of our girls that meant a new school which was SOOOOOO different to the old one.
But right now I need to remember that in 5 years time NOW won't be as hard as I think it is.
I've just got off the phone to the hospital and feel like crying. Elisabeth is on the waiting list to have her tonsils out and they just can't give me a date for when I will know the surgery date let alone anything else! The health system has gone so down hill in recent years and most recently the goverment has pulled even more money from the health budget which means less beds and less staff etc etc.
When Megan, our eldest who is 12, was born we started our journey with the hospital system. WE never had to wait long to be given appointments and hardly ever had to wait when we got there. Roll on 12 years and the system is so different. It's fraustrating and it's lousy. The poor lady, who I spoke to today, just kept saying I can't give you any dates because I have to deal with it on a day to day basis. Which I get and that's fine it's just difficult because I need to juggle things too!
So there is my rant, didn't make me better but I know that in 5 years time it won't matter (just hope the system is better and not worse by then!!!)

[happydays525]

Oh my goodness! 5 years ago was absolutely the worst time in my life. Seriously, was not in a good place. We were living in a tiny apartment that was dark and small in a town where I didn't know anyone. I was home with Z all the time and at the time she was 2. My husband had a job that he hated and wasn't happy. I went through a really tough time and had some major life struggles. We were barely hanging on as a couple and almost didn't make it. Later this year though we moved to where we are now, thank God. This move was a fresh start for so very many reasons. I would never want to go back to that time, ever. It really was that bad.

[happydays525]

how funny! 5 years ago we had moved house too and for 2 of our girls that meant a new school which was SOOOOOO different to the old one.
But right now I need to remember that in 5 years time NOW won't be as hard as I think it is.
I've just got off the phone to the hospital and feel like crying. Elisabeth is on the waiting list to have her tonsils out and they just can't give me a date for when I will know the surgery date let alone anything else! The health system has gone so down hill in recent years and most recently the goverment has pulled even more money from the health budget which means less beds and less staff etc etc.
When Megan, our eldest who is 12, was born we started our journey with the hospital system. WE never had to wait long to be given appointments and hardly ever had to wait when we got there. Roll on 12 years and the system is so different. It's fraustrating and it's lousy. The poor lady, who I spoke to today, just kept saying I can't give you any dates because I have to deal with it on a day to day basis. Which I get and that's fine it's just difficult because I need to juggle things too!
So there is my rant, didn't make me better but I know that in 5 years time it won't matter (just hope the system is better and not worse by then!!!)

Hang in there Sharmaine!!! Sending you a mama hug!

[DeniseM]

Oh my goodness! 5 years ago was absolutely the worst time in my life. Seriously, was not in a good place. We were living in a tiny apartment that was dark and small in a town where I didn't know anyone. I was home with Z all the time and at the time she was 2. My husband had a job that he hated and wasn't happy. I went through a really tough time and had some major life struggles. We were barely hanging on as a couple and almost didn't make it. Later this year though we moved to where we are now, thank God. This move was a fresh start for so very many reasons. I would never want to go back to that time, ever. It really was that bad.

Jen I hear you sister. What an amazing thing, TIME. It's not that we don't have to do the hard work during but man, time does heal so many things. I have had times like that my self Jennifer, especially when the boys were little. as much as I love them-man, the toddler time was tough. I am glad things are better.

Sharmaine, so sorry it's been so difficult with your health care situation. Hopefully you will get your answers soon!

[Funky Fairy]

How odd that life was so hard for us all 5yrs ago.

Sharmaine,my fingers are tightly crossed for you x

[NickyNoo]

Anyone in a good place 5 years ago? LOL!

Erm, me *peeps out meekly* I feel a bit guilty coming here and saying how fine everything was, when all of you have had such hard times . But that's the truth of it. I've never really been in a bad place, except when Max was soo ill when he was born, and that was only bad for a couple of weeks.

5 years ago I was still a SAHM, Sam had just started school and Max a cute toddler, life was calm and all was good. And still is .

Sharmaine, so sorry for your frustrations, I really hope it all gets sorted out. Let's hope things are better in 5 months, rather than 5 years .

[DeniseM]

oh Nicky, I am sure we've all had times good times as well.
glad five years ago was wonderful!

[flapjack]

I loved this question Denise. 'This too shall pass' is my motto too. I'm really sorry we've all had bad times.

Sharmaine, I hope you manage to get somewhere. Hugs.

5 years ago, at this time, I would have been peeping out of my window wondering what items of furniture the (I want to use unpolite words to describe them here) little um, 'hoodlums' would be dragging out of their houses to build a bonfire on the land opposite our house, which was the back of a park. I'm not joking. Sofas, wardrobes, chairs would be carried out by these knuckle draggers. I'm not necessarily against community bonfires, but this wasn't one. From the start of October 'til way after Bonfire Night, our lives would be hell.

They'd start setting off fireworks (which terrified Beth) as soon as school finished, would start drinking and then throw them at each other outside our house, metres away from the windows (Beth's window!) and cars. Ugh, I feel sick thinking about it. They'd smash glass, fight, damage things. Every Halloween, they would egg our house and shout abuse at us. It was awful. I'm SO glad we don't live there anymore. Soooooooooooooooooooooooooo glad x a billion. The fire would be lit on Bonfire Night by drunk teenagers and quickly get out of control. I used to just call the Police/Fire Brigade as soon as they put a match to it.

We had so much trouble while we lived there - someone was killed in a fight just down the road, someone was attacked by his 'mates', someone went on a rampage with a baseball bat and smashed loads of car windows in (luckily, I looked out just as he started on ours and the little scumbag ran off). It was horrible.

We still had a nightmare after we moved after a pipe burst and ruined the whole place, but now I am so, so, so happy with where we live. I look back and can't believe we went through so much there. {More unpolite words and thoughts towards the little horrors that made our lives miserable}.

[AnnaB]

O wow Laura. That truly sounds awful. I'm glad you were able to put that place behind you!

Sharmaine - hugs!

It's so interesting to read your posts. A lot can change in 5 years.

5 years ago Alva was Tuva's age and I was really struggling with her (she was screaming A LOT) and 3-years-old Linus. Those were crazy times... The loss of Hugo was still so close, so close, but at the same time we were so very happy that things were ok when Alva was born. And still I wasn't mentally strong enough to handle the everyday life the way I wanted to. But it was wonderful too. It was before we moved to this house and I remember spending lots of time on the floor in Linus' room, playing.