I don't think all our food issues will be solved in a wink (is it in a wink or in a blink?
) but it felt really good talking to the dietitian this morning. Trying not to write a novel... she suggested that we try this strategy:
-be very strict with rules regarding how to behave at the table, if they aren't able to sit still they'll have to leave. BUT, it's ok to eat with the hands and we're not to nag about the "smaller" things, but focusing on the more acute ones - the things that really ruin our meals today.
- make sure we serve varied food
have any rules about what or how much they have to eat, but let them eat only pasta one day if that's what the want and only meatballs another day... but of course have all the other things that complete a meal, on the table (and if possible on their plates)
The huge difference is that we've always said that they've had to taste everything, even if it was only a tiny bit.
The thought behind this new strategy is most easily explained by using one example that I started by saying that we can see that Linus has made up his mind that everything new is impossible to eat, and I compared the situation to if someone would offer me ants or worms. That's how hard it is for him to try new things with an open mind, and that's why the result is always that he didn't like it, when he tries something new.
The dietitian then said that there's a higher possibility that I would actually try the ants if all the others at my table ate their ants every day, without asking/forcing me to try, than if I was constantly forced to have a bite. If I watched others enjoy their ants long enough, perhaps I'd eventually be curious and try them myself.
It sort of makes sense!
As it is now, Linus takes his "ants" as a tiny bite that he swallows with as little chewing as possible, with lots of milk or water. It really doesn't do a lot of good.
I don't know if this will work. It's quite possible that he won't eat a single thing that he doesn't know that he likes. But it's worth a try. We'll have a phone contact with the dietitian after Christmas and then we'll decide how to move on and if we need to try another strategy. Since he is growing the way he is supposed to, he does eat "enough" in total and it's not a medical problem... but still sooo complicated.
Ha ha... I guess I did write a book after all...